Gonna "bump" this as it's been one of my most entertaining threads on PE.....
Got together with an OLD friend (since we were 15) and not only do we now Give Organ Recitals (aches / pains complaints).....but now we Include our "Mother Complaints!" (His is 96 mine is 84) His Ma has a PT come to her room to make her do arm exercises so she can continue to "push herself" up out of the chair!
He found out she had started using diapers to avoid getting out of the chair during the day.
I know some of you might bristle about these complaints....especially since we "still have" our Moms around......
But here is something we found out we have in common......we were both "middle children"....and have few memories of one-on-one time with our Ma's when we were little. We both have one older brother and one younger brother.....and the usual stereotypes applied.....the bonding with the "first born" and "the baby" of the family. My Ma used to say "how easy" it was to raise me....she would just send me out to play and have to come find me at dinner......I was self-entertaining. My brothers I guess...were clingy.... One advantage I continue to have is my brothers Still continue to screw up be it failed marriages, grandkid-screwups or job losses so My Ma is Still zero's in on them and seldom "wonders" what I'm up to....
We both came to a conclusion that what we do for out Mothers is more out of "duty" than love.....We both also realized we had closer attachments to our Fathers and felt their loss more. Oh....and another thing.......when our Ma's "need a pencil" or "fix the loose leg" on the coffee table * they call Us!......not the brothers.
You might think this is "oversharing" on an online forum.....but it was a Huge Relief to find out someone was going through the same thing as me in dealing with parents.....
* these were complaints we received when really Ma just wanted some company for an afternoon.......our brothers only stop by for a holiday dinner or to take her to a Dr appt......It's the "Middle Kid" who stops by for no reason to just visit for a few hours.....
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