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    I've noticed that since the New Year started, I'm having difficulties keeping in touch with acquaintances. Received a bit of blow-back from my "over-cheerfull" Holiday letter in the Christmas card too. They say older White Males have the hardest time keeping relationships in tact. Maybe the Pandemic isolation is finally getting to everyone. I've had two long-time friends (45+ years) have social media meltdowns this month! Maybe it's financial stress. I do see a correlation between my more testy acquaintances and their bad financial states. Last summer We all did a good job keeping in touch and it was fun checking in with each other. Maybe it's the Bleak MidWinter? Dunno......I think I'm doing fine and am pretty much in a good mood.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Garyhead View Post
    I've noticed that since the New Year started, I'm having difficulties keeping in touch with acquaintances. Received a bit of blow-back from my "over-cheerfull" Holiday letter in the Christmas card too. They say older White Males have the hardest time keeping relationships in tact. Maybe the Pandemic isolation is finally getting to everyone. I've had two long-time friends (45+ years) have social media meltdowns this month! Maybe it's financial stress. I do see a correlation between my more testy acquaintances and their bad financial states. Last summer We all did a good job keeping in touch and it was fun checking in with each other. Maybe it's the Bleak MidWinter? Dunno......I think I'm doing fine and am pretty much in a good mood.
    You have people here who appreciate your contributions. We are online friends. I have three long term close friends. We previously met once a month as a group for what we call "Prog Nights". We each take turns playing one song in rotation and talk about why the music is important/resonates with us. This lifeline of fun is broken. We'll have a meal to start the night. Our wives are all collectively supportive of this man space. I'm glad your in a good mood. I'm mostly grateful I have a stable federal government job that pays all my bills. Going back to "Prog Night", my wife and I bought a new house and I have a den with home theatre, stereo, my memorabilia collection, and nice furniture (a lot new). I'm dying to share this with my old buddies. Vacine is coming baby!
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    Quote Originally Posted by mozo-pg View Post
    You have people here who appreciate your contributions. We are online friends. I have three long term close friends. We previously met once a month as a group for what we call "Prog Nights". We each take turns playing one song in rotation and talk about why the music is important/resonates with us. This lifeline of fun is broken. We'll have a meal to start the night. Our wives are all collectively supportive of this man space. I'm glad your in a good mood. I'm mostly grateful I have a stable federal government job that pays all my bills. Going back to "Prog Night", my wife and I bought a new house and I have a den with home theatre, stereo, my memorabilia collection, and nice furniture (a lot new). I'm dying to share this with my old buddies. Vacine is coming baby!
    Having contact with people in real life is still much different from online contacts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rarebird View Post
    Having contact with people in real life is still much different from online contacts.
    I know one thing worked for you though. Your online friends visited you in person. I've met several PE members in person. Yves and Barb, for example came over for dinner and overnight for one weekend. Lot's of other PEers I've met in person. I know you met Steve and Hugues.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mozo-pg View Post
    I know one thing worked for you though. Your online friends visited you in person. I've met several PE members in person. Yves and Barb, for example came over for dinner and overnight for one weekend. Lot's of other PEers I've met in person. I know you met Steve and Hugues.
    I've met Steve and Hugues, and Beth and Anita.
    But those are always once in a lifetime meetings.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rarebird View Post
    Having contact with people in real life is still much different from online contacts.
    So true...however, sometimes contact is not enough. Having been a member of On Reflection, the Gentle Giant on line forum, for 25 years, I can honestly say that relationships has developed that do not exist on PE. Probably because of our common love of Gentle Giant. I would love to believe that Prog would have the same relationship, but I don't see it. I have met a number of PE'ers over the years but it hasn't been quite the same. It is better to have met someone in person that you communicate with on line, but would argue that there has to be something a little deeper, otherwise it's not much different to a holiday romance.
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    Quote Originally Posted by adap2it View Post
    So true...however, sometimes contact is not enough. Having been a member of On Reflection, the Gentle Giant on line forum, for 25 years, I can honestly say that relationships has developed that do not exist on PE. Probably because of our common love of Gentle Giant. I would love to believe that Prog would have the same relationship, but I don't see it. I have met a number of PE'ers over the years but it hasn't been quite the same. It is better to have met someone in person that you communicate with on line, but would argue that there has to be something a little deeper, otherwise it's not much different to a holiday romance.
    You're right. Not being lonely is not only having people around you, but also about having people you can have some meaningfull conversation with, about the things you have in common, like sharing the love for the same music. That is something people tend to forget if they are talking about people who feel lonely. They often seem to think that having some contact with some volunteer would be enough for not feeling lonely. The last year my dad missed that a bit, because he couldn't make some appointment with a friend who liked traditional jazz, like my dad, which also ment listening to music together

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rarebird View Post
    Having contact with people in real life is still much different from online contacts.
    You got that right! I'd LOVE a good game of Cribbage. Or Pinochle.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Garyhead View Post
    You got that right! I'd LOVE a good game of Cribbage. Or Pinochle.
    Pinochle I could do. My father played cribbage in the Navy, but I never really picked it up.
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    I've been lucky enough to meet many dozens of PEers in person.

    Not many in the recent years, but that's been my fault - business travel, family life, sports activities, etc. have take up my time.

    I need to get back in touch in a post-Covid world.
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    Quote Originally Posted by adap2it View Post
    So true...however, sometimes contact is not enough. Having been a member of On Reflection, the Gentle Giant on line forum, for 25 years, I can honestly say that relationships has developed that do not exist on PE. Probably because of our common love of Gentle Giant. I would love to believe that Prog would have the same relationship, but I don't see it. I have met a number of PE'ers over the years but it hasn't been quite the same. It is better to have met someone in person that you communicate with on line, but would argue that there has to be something a little deeper, otherwise it's not much different to a holiday romance.
    I agree with this. In the pre Facebook days, I used to love the Spock's Beard message board. Got to know people on a much deeper level there, and have developed lasting friendships with about a dozen of them. I've had the pleasure of meeting almost all of them in person, and these get togethers were always more meaningful than ones from here or any other musical site.
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    I've met lots of you bums in person. Most of my life long friends are in England so I'm actually seeing more of them via our weekly virtual pub zoom calls.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NogbadTheBad View Post
    I've met lots of you bums in person. Most of my life long friends are in England so I'm actually seeing more of them via our weekly virtual pub zoom calls.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Garyhead View Post
    You got that right! I'd LOVE a good game of Cribbage. Or Pinochle.
    Love playing cribbage. Until recently, I thought cribbage was a card game played mostly in New England (specifically, New Hampshire - where I learned it). She-who-must-be-obeyed is a vicious cribbage player. She's calls muggins on me at least once a game.
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    I have met many people on this board, but since hardly anyone uses their real names, I don't know who is who most of the time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SteveSly View Post
    I have met many people on this board, but since hardly anyone uses their real names, I don't know who is who most of the time.
    I agree, Bob.

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    And I thought you loved me Steve? It's me Ian, you know Ian, oh I give up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NogbadTheBad View Post
    And I thought you loved me Steve? It's me Ian, you know Ian, oh I give up.
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    Ian, you are one of the few who I know who you are in real life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NogbadTheBad View Post
    I've met lots of you bums in person. Most of my life long friends are in England so I'm actually seeing more of them via our weekly virtual pub zoom calls.
    I believe the politically correct term is "transient."
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    Quote Originally Posted by SteveSly View Post
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    Ian, you are one of the few who I know who you are in real life.
    Are you positive, SteveSly?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SteveSly View Post
    I have met many people on this board, but since hardly anyone uses their real names, I don't know who is who most of the time.
    I've often thought that at festivals, we should all wear name tags with both - a real name, and a PE handle
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    Quote Originally Posted by Duncan Glenday View Post
    I've often thought that at festivals, we should all wear name tags with both - a real name, and a PE handle
    At my first NF in '10 I wore a US Soccer team jersey with Nogbad on the back for that very reason.
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