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    OptiquesJeff..the announcement I did not want to make

    I am starting a separate thread because of the importance of this announcement. I am devastated to tell you all that the chemo did not work. Jeff is on hospice in our home, and the focus will be on symptom management.

    Though I was expecting this, it is different when it's really happening. So final and so heavy.. I cannot even process what is going on, and it's taking a toll on me as well. Jeff and I appreciate all of the love you have been showing us, more than we can express.. I am completely heartbroken...

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    I don't have the words, Cyndee....


    Please let Jeff know that I wish you both peace.
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    This news breaks my heart. What a struggle. I am indeed saddened.
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    stay strong cyndee

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    So sad to hear of this. I'm with Scott...wishing you both peace.

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    This is the worst possible news. I remember how supportive you were when Greg Amov was dying. Now it's time for me to reciprocate.

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    I'm sorry.

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    Make him smile and love him.
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    Thank you everyone.. just devastating..

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    Cyndee, much love and peace to you and Jeff.

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    Peace, love and strength to you both as you travel through this experience together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WHORG View Post
    Make him smile and love him.
    Good advice, Cyn. Just devastated here too, hon! This is a journey no one wants to make, and palliative care isn't just done by hospice staff. You're on the team too.

    I love you guys and wish peace for both of you.
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    Cyndee and Jeff, I just want to say that I don't have very many really close friends and it is an honor to be yours. We have had some really fun times that I will cherish forever. I'm glad I had a chance to visit with you and some of our other friends last night. It was a beautiful peaceful evening and the frogs seemed to be singing just for him.

    Love and peace to you both.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ffroyd View Post
    Cyndee and Jeff, I just want to say that I don't have very many really close friends and it is an honor to be yours. We have had some really fun times that I will cherish forever. I'm glad I had a chance to visit with you and some of our other friends last night. It was a beautiful peaceful evening and the frogs seemed to be singing just for him.

    Love and peace to you both.


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    Awww.. Floyd.. so beautiful.. xoxo

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    You are a very classy and courageous woman, Cyndee. In the midst of disaster you are amazing me. Hold your head high. Much love to you and Jeff.

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    So sad to hear this Cyndee. Jeff will be missed.

    Good thoughts to you both, and I hope his next journey is easier then the crappy way this one turned out.

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    Cyndee - my heart is heavy and I can't imagine how yours feels. I wish you and Jeff so much strength during this time. The courage and spirit of both of you has been incredible.
    Much love, light, and peace to you both,

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    Our thoughts are with you both.

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    Such sad news, Cyndee. Jeff is lucky in having you, that's for sure. I hope the coming time passes as easily as it possibly can.

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    All of your support means to much to us... xoxo

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    Please let Jeff know that Arhlene and I still have both of you in our thoughts and prayers. We continue to hope that you both manage to find peace in some way, and that Jeff is as comfortable as possible.

    Quote Originally Posted by WHORG View Post
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    Sage advice. It will help you both.
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    Make sure you pass along to Jeff how much I appreciated how you and he (along with many others) made my friend Billy and I feel welcome at NEARfest. Stay strong, Cyndee, I honestly can say that I have no idea how you must be feeling right now. All I can say is that this really bums me out.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Scott Bails View Post
    I don't have the words, Cyndee....


    Please let Jeff know that I wish you both peace.
    I think that Scott sums things up for me too. I'm speechless. I wish that there was something that I could do or say to make this better for you both. Just know that I'm thinking of you and wishing you peace and love. My heart goes out to you.

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    The only thing I can say is how terribly sorry I am to hear your news.

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    Peace be with you. Love is eternal, unbreakable, & unfathomable. You are both loved.
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